Hi to all u ppl out there reading my blog now!Well,let me tell u abt me.I have my Mom, brothers and sisters, And finally ME,i m 26 And i am working as a Software Engineer.I like to sweaming.I was born on 4 th october 1980 in Orissa, India.My best frens and closest ppl in my life r you my close friends.... sorry if i left out you in my friends list.....Hey you are in my heart....!Thatz all u have to noe abt me i guess. So bye! =) [Make a smile]

गुरुवार, जुलाई 13, 2006

There is nothing wrong in being SELFISH!!!

How many of us can really boldly say no to certain favours??? Few of us alone have the so "selfish gene" with us!!!!Is is wrong to be selfish!!!!At times really not!!!!!!And to certain people its every inch worthy to be selfish!!

People who help always do it...and there is always a gang who royally make use of them! And finally end up abusing them!

I too have faced situations where all the moral science in your school days comes over flowing in your mind and u try to explicitly help out people..."trying to place ourselves in their shoes " and understand their situation and help them....not only many of them really realise it....they jus properly make use of all your morality and jus wag a bye as soon as their things are done!!!
Even if your values are so high.....never expect back if u help...cos if u expect back and u r nt properly reciprocated thats fine!Rather than getting comments like" So what u have helped I have no time to think over it "That sucks!!!!!

So a couple of instances have thought me the wonderful lesson of being selfish!!!I have these days learn the habit of politely saying a no...You can never be good solu to every one atleast!!!But im definitely not selfish with everyone...And i never ever can forget the help one has done to me!!!Gratitude is a gene quality i always want to be instilled!!!!

Another issue is that Money matters.....yaa" MOney REally MAtters"...My parents have always trained me in this.I can let a penny of my money in others packet but i can never have a penny of someone else s in mine!In fact I don even accept gifts if i feel a person is not that close to me( but I demand it from the ones I m really close)!!!Even today if i go out with my friends just for a get together or a party(definitely no treat)...one of us pay the cash and immidiately divide the money and settle of every single rupee then and there!(I donno at times its awkward but none of us mind it that way)....Even if its common gifts we share the same way!!!In this way i have felt our friendship has grown more stronger and misundertandings never comeout due to these silly issues....( as in most cases money breaks frienship!!!!!I cant afford to lose anyone for this sake!!!

So here is a test for u!!!

How selfish are you?

"Sincere forgiveness isn't colored with expectations that the other person apologize or change.Don't worry whether or not they finally understand you. Love them and release them.